Author and self-help guru Iyanla Vanzant is in the news over comments she made in an interview with MadameNoire Magazine.
Vanzant had the temerity to suggest that women, black women in particular, are “out of order.” One pearls she offers: “There is no reason for us to continue to have children with men who don’t honor us, and don’t take care of their children.”
I agree whole heartedly. Vanzant hit the nail on the head when she talked about women giving reign over their lives to people who make them spiritually, emotionally and mentally sick.
To me, her words are not harsh, they’re fair, and she’s not passing judgment so much as she is pointing out a truth as she sees it. And sometimes the truth hurts. Continue reading “#Women Are Out of Order”
Justin’s gon’ let you know, EVERYBODY loves him. Even shorties who see him on the street are compelled to break out and dance. LOL One of my buddies pointed out that the club and street scenes are a little…light, but I said, hey. The fact that he’s got a bunch of whit-ish folks groovin’ is … Continue reading Everybody Loves Justin #diversity #TakeBackTN @jtimberlake
When the Trayvon verdict came down a week ago, my first thought was, I need to write about this. It’s news. I should be tendering an opinion. I am a member of the media, after all. But somehow I couldn’t. I couldn’t summon one ounce of passion over the verdict. My poor mother, on the other hand, was so angry she cleaned the stove – a hated chore she accomplished so masterfully that the sucker looked brand new when I came to visit days later.
I was blasé about the entire trial. I half listened to testimony, not even bothering to cringe or roll my eyes when they put that ridiculous, practically illiterate girl on the stand. Yeah, that helped. And when old George was set free, I felt nothing. I wasn’t upset. I wasn’t surprised. I wasn’t compelled to march or cry or complain or even tweet.
The fact is, this type of thing – young black man gunned down and white killer set free – happens all the time. It’s just that poor Trayvon won the martyr hat for the year. Don’t get me wrong. It is a tragic loss of life. We’ll never know what that young man might have accomplished. He could have been our second black president. It’s undeniably sad that because of someone else’s immaturity and fear, he won’t have an opportunity to change the world or even to contribute in some way.
It’s tragic that Trayvon will only be remembered in this horrid context, his handsome brown face emblazoned on hoodies, associated with death and anger, injustice and wasted potential. Continue reading “Obama a Global George Zimmerman? Really?”
…are not good in Tyler Perry’s Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor, which came out on Redbox this week. I saw it last night, and talk about an impression! I was literally shook by the end of the film. Shook, I tell you! I’m a huge Perry fan, and this was one of the few … Continue reading #Temptation – All Things Pretty and Shiny…
I don’t know why everyone is so shocked that a near 70-year-old Southern white woman used the N word. She’s probably using it like the F-bomb right about now. However, I am glad Food Network decided not to renew her contract – not because I’m interested in punishing her; I could care less – but … Continue reading Paula Deen Used the N Word…And?
I’ve been on a serious Donny Hathaway kick lately. I knew who he was, of course, that he died young under mysterious and tragic circumstances, but I only knew his musical standards: A Song For You, I Love You More Than You’ll Ever Know. This joint, Giving Up, is just as special. It’s like a … Continue reading Donny Hathaway: Adult Pacifier
Regina Hall is playing with the male cast of Think Like a Man like a veteran flirt, and they are thoroughly enjoying every moment. Continue reading This is How You Work a Room
Mariah’s still on top and fabulous at 40. This is a coop/milestone for Miguel. I’m really enjoying watching – and listening – to his career. Continue reading Mimi is Beautiful (ly airbrushed)
I had a few favorite looks at The Met do this year. Nicole Ritchie totally committed with her white hair. I also enjoyed Sarah Jessica Parker and her faux hawk Philip Treacy head piece. Anne Hathaway is all Kanye – “You can hate me now, but I won’t stop now” – in vintage Valentino. Carey … Continue reading The Met 2013