I spoke to a friend recently who’s in the job market. She’s in a good spot in that she’s already employed, she’s just looking for a better opportunity. But she was grumbling about one particular person she works with who has single handedly spurred her to go hard at her job search. I just laughed. … Continue reading Why Are We Surrounded by so Many Liars?
A woman I work with is moving from Utah. She of white, black and Native American ancestry, her Black husband, their two young children, even the nanny — they can’t take it anymore. It’s not a diverse place — understatement of the year, apparently — and too many of its populace can’t keep their hands out … Continue reading White People, Don’t Be So Sensitive When We Point Out Racism
My closest friends know I have a running joke about how in my next life I want to be reincarnated as a white man. I’d like to be 6’3″, fine, with thick, jet black hair, milk pale skin and blue eyes. I mean blue! That spooky, piercing Chris Pine/Paul Newman blue. The rest of me … Continue reading To Avoid Arrest and Death in Cases of Domestic Terrorism, It’s Best to Have Blue Eyes and White Skin
I wanted to be terribly hopeful and happy and excited about 2021, but I confess: I’m more like, meh. Honestly, it feels like just another day, which was, for me, par for the course for 2020. One day ran into the next, and before I knew it, my birthday passed. Then it was fall, and … Continue reading 2021, Cool.
My sister and her friend got me a bike for my birthday, and I’ve been riding it almost every day. It feels wonderful to move fast, propelling myself forward, a cooling wind in my hair — even though I’ve probably eaten quite a few bugs. But I’ve seen a man recently, built, strong, walking along … Continue reading This Is the World that We Live In
Something interesting happened to me earlier this week, a client apologized to me. We’ll just call him Mr. Big Wig — because he is — BW for short. We had our weekly meeting on Monday, discussing upcoming opportunities and plans to expand his brand, etc. After 30 minutes, we ended the call, and I was … Continue reading Some Phrases You’ve Used Your Whole Life May Need to Be Retired
I’ve been staying away from social media for some weeks — actually, months — now. Days will go by and I don’t click on Instagram or post on Twitter beyond my business accounts. It’s too disturbing. It’s one thing to know how screwed up the world can be on issues like racism and human dignity … Continue reading This Portland Mom Will Make You Believe that Black Live Matter
I have a niece. Fabulous. Educated, well credentialed, very good at her job, and always exquisitely turned out. Lashes, hair, make up air brushed on, clothes, car, everything top of the line and together. A few years ago she went through a bad patch. It happens. She was let go from a job — I’d … Continue reading Self-care Is the Most Fabulous Act of Resistance
I don’t like protests. I understand them, the rage, emotion, the history and everything else that fuels such demonstrations. They do create awareness and solidarity, and I believe they have some value. But I don’t want Black people to focus their energy there. The country is up in arms right now because of George Floyd’s … Continue reading You Want an Immediate Way to Fight the Battle for Black Lives? Buy Black
A Life Not Grey 